So, I will put this out there first. I never said communication wasn’t important. And never pointed any fingers.
All I Was saying…
Is to maybe look at what barriers are affecting the level of communication.
People, therapists, the “GURU’s” say all you gotta do is talk and things will somehow magically get better.
Those therapists and “GURU’s use it as a buzzword to avoid the laziness that comes with thinking deeper about an issue.
I talk to people all day long. Doesn’t mean it is effective or accomplishes anything really.
Like I’m famous for saying, “Without intention, nothing specific Happens.” What is it you want to happen?
Never heard therapists and “GURU’s” ask that either. Is there really a reason to talk, just to talk?
I even have to be a lot more intentional with what I want to accomplish when having conversation or communicating.
And, just to reiterate last week, what I apparently failed to get across is that before anyone can communicate effectively and deeply enough for transformation and deep bonding safety has to be first and foremost.
I can talk to anyone until I am blue in the face and unless it is intentional and received in safe environment then all the oratory skills Socrates could muster would be met with ill will.
And I am sure most of you probably know that Socrates had to drink poison because he was trying to communicate in a not so safe environment.
Communication is important and much more effective when transpiring in a safe environment backed with the intentionality of accomplishing an outcome.
Otherwise you may just be talking to hear yourself talk. By the way it is messy. And a lot of times happens organically. Begin with an outcome but don’t be derailed by visiting a few other stops along the way.
Thank you for understanding the episode in all it’s messy glory. It’s real. It’s life.
That is the way I like it. Unscripted and raw. Until next week.